The only thing that counts is that you’re authentic and confident in whatever you’re doing. Choose to be confident in being rather quiet and relaxed.
You don’t have to be the guy who’s like: “I saw you from over there, and I think you’re really hot, I just had to meet you!”
You can say something along the lines of “Hey, how is it going?” or “Excuse me, do you know what the time is?”. Say whatever feels authentic for you.
And while you talk, don’t try to be someone you’re not. If you don’t have developed the witty side of yourself, just let her talk more.
If it helps, you can even tell her that you’re quite introverted or that the interaction makes you a bit nervous. Honesty and unapologeticness (is that a word?) is so much more attractive than someone who’s trying to hide their insecurities.
When it comes to getting her number, or meeting up with her another time, how to seduce girls as an introvert is not different from who other guys do it. There is a ton of resources and articles on this page that will help you with that.
Step #3: Show Her Your Introvert-World
I have a friend who has a really introverted tendency. He’s a programming-type-of-guy who enjoys reading and training Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (a really tactical sport) in his freetime. He talks quietly, but still, he meets some really cool and beautiful girls.
Would you appreciate it if your buddy who hates boxing took you to a match-and then be in a bad mood the entire time? Of course not!
In that respect, girls are not that different from men. There is no reason outgoing girls wouldn’t enjoy the presence of an authentic man just because the surrounding are different from what she’s used to.
Why would you even want to spend any more time with somebody who is on a completely different wavelength when you can have any woman you want?
Summed Up Wisdom
Being an introvert is not a disease, it’s a tendency. You might never be able to turn yourself into a full-on extrovert, but why would you?
Of course, part of life is also to lean into your fear and to challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone. At some times, it might even be necessary for you to be loud and social with people-for example when you venture into a nightclub.
But don’t believe anybody who tells you have to develop a whole different personality to attract women. You are a man, and that’s enough (if you believe it).
It’s possible to meet girls by being authentic, even if you’re rather quiet. Just go out and see for yourself.
But first, allow me (Sebastian Harris) to share my own story about how I transformed from an introverted loser into an introverted seducer:
There, I was confronted with a horrific pojedynczy kraj randki sight; pretty Japanese girls were grinding on really ugly Westerner’s laps. I don’t judge the attractiveness of men exclusively by their looks, but those boys were not even cool.
As soon as she’s interested in you, and you’ll meet in a different kind of environment, you can behave in a way that you find most authentic again. And perhaps you even might discover a completely different side of yourself, one that actually enjoys being the centre of attention. You can then use that side whenever it is necessary. Not as a false personality, but as a tool, in the same way that a singer uses their voice on stage.
That’s how you enjoy talking when you are an introvert. It’s in alignment with who you really are while jumping around her and punching out one raunchy joke after the other is not.